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With age, comes compromise. I used to love laughing at couples who found it necessary to actually schedule sex with their partner. How unromantic and lame can a couple get?
Years of marriage and two kids later I've learned that scheduled sex is better than no sex at all. Where's my calendar?
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Hi! Found you on twitter and finally checking out the blog from my desktop. love it! This post is hilarious.. You know, I'm only 24, but with me & my BF's busy schedules I can see how this can help us! :)
Thanks Megan! I'm not too much older than you but once you layer on a marriage and a couple of kids it seems like sex becomes a distant priority (for her :). Women forget that the male body doesn't change during pregnancy and birth, so we're just as horny as ever even though your hormones now say "leave me alone." It can become a major wedge in a relationship and that's why I'm more and more in support of scheduling sex. It keeps the boys from pulling their hair out thinking it will never happen again, and it sets a time in mind for the girl so she doesn't get frustrated by us pawing at her all the time :). Thanks for the comment.
Hum! I guess I'm still a little old-fashioned and a tad romantic, but scheduling sex seems the anti-thesis to letting it happen naturally. It won't work for me, but that doesn't mean it's not possible for others. And now that I think about it, it does give one something to look forward to. Hmmm!
It is a must for those of us who used to truly enjoy sex, but who now have physical problems related to childbirth that inhibit pleasure in the same way as before kids. Pain, nerve damage, loss of sensation, hormonal changes, surgery, incontinence ...all play a role. But scheduling time for intimacy allows one to mentally prepare, remembertherkmance, practice it, physically prepare, get in the mood, dress sexily (instead of mommy-like), etc.... So many reasons scheduling can be helpf. Just because it is nit spontaneous does nit mean it us not meaningful...and yes, it can save a marriage, too.
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